Sunday, February 8, 2009


It's a good thing that Panera Bread is not exactly a sanctuary of silence...if you get my drift. 'Cause sex was on the word menu paused only by salad and sandwiches gulps and tittering laughter. Most of the five girls waxing eloquent on the topic were pretty well convinced we were never going to fall into a 'frigid wife' category. Not with all the hormones raging around inside us anyways! Only one pretty face seemed visibly disturbed by the whole conversation, turns out she was under the understanding the whole thing
 was taboo.
Taboo? you mean talking about our sexual drives...if it had been purely superficial, yeah sure. But it wasn't. Sex and its drives is a real time issue that impacts our daily interactions with one another.
Sexual purity is neither denial that we have drives or deception that we are born knowing how to manage them. Not only do we need each other's mutual 'hey, I'm there' and 'let's keep strong' mantras but especially the mutual accountablilty to 
the biblical call for sexual
purity! I've heard it before and every time it makes me shiver in the naivetee of the assumption. 
It goes something like this: Our lustful battles will be over once we can freely enjoy the glories of the marriage bed. Come on now!
If marriage was the solution to a properly satisfied, balanced and managed sex drive. Then there wouldn't be problems with pornography or infidelity or other sexual indescretions that there are today. One thing's for sure. Unlawful sexual impulses, thrills and desires as incapsulated in the word LUST will be a life long battle on this side of eternity! That is unless you are gifted with celibacy...man, I used to think I was...what a deception!
My point is this: first of all, we're not angles so sex is not taboo. Halelujah! It was after all designed by God so its not at all surprisng the devil has done his best to destroy its true beauty.
Second of all, the best things in life have distinct boundaries. Think land & water, a break of the boundary equals a flood. Sex's joys are best discovered objectively not subjectively, so any messing around has the real tendency to erode that joy exponent.
Next time sex is on the word menu, I think I'll pass...for a while anyways. =)